FACEBOOK is now taking over in more ways than one, although I have been on facebook since 2009, I have come to know many things about these “CLIQUES” of social butterflies, (In the social sciences, a clique is a group of “persons who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same setting.”) that has made me become more and more disgusted with the mentality of many.
I absolutely hate to hear that kids are committing suicide, but I understand why. Everyday you see updates on how wonderful everyone’s life is…This friend just got married, that friend that is in rome, that person that just received a check for a million dollars, that woman who just lost 20 pounds not doing anything at all, and that family that always takes vacation together and are so happy….meanwhile you are in a horrible position in your life with no support and feeling depressed which makes it almost impossible to be happy for someone else. The only support your “FRIENDS” give you are cyber hugs or posters of inspiration.
Then you get those people that copy and paste other peoples quotes, and thoughts. Telling you how to live, giving you wisdom and knowledge, meanwhile not applying any of it to their own lives or forgetting them all together.
Facebook is creating problems in society and taking away our personal space, because we LET IT! Most workplaces require access to your facebook page and most accounts such as Linkedin, Google+, Elance, and more link to your account making everything completely public. Which is okay if you are promoting your own business, book you are writing, websites or other work related things, but you should definitely be careful to not mix work with personal life due to all the unnecessary judgements that could be made against you. Of course there are ways you can fight this and live a normal happy life.
First of all before I continue… You must know these important definitions: Friend: a person of whom you Like, Trust, and Respect. Acquaintance: a person of whom you know, tolerate, and watch closely with precaution. Loved one: a person of whom you may rely on, love, completely trust, is loyal, honest, selfless and unconditional.
So Facebook “Friends” are not necessarily your real friends!
I thoroughly enjoy keeping up with people in my past, family that have moved away, co-workers from that job way back when, friends from church were I grew up, and that Big group of followers in all the games I need help on.
BUT, you get those occasional “Friends” that you feel bad if you don’t accept them on your list, then creeps that seem to like every photo your in with scary comments that make you feel like it is necessary to block your location at all times or post things two weeks after it happened so they don’t end up accidentally meeting you in a public place someday!
Then you have those people that post T. M. I. (To much information) STUFF, Such as “I am on the toilet right now updating my status!” (REALLY, like I wanted to know that?) …Shortly after uploading a photo of what they left in the toilet bowl. Yeah, that is when I decide to block them!
I absolutely hate when facebook recommends people you might know and show you numerous facebook accounts of half naked selfies or porn like photos!
I love (Being Sarcastic) how you get BLOCKED when you friend too many people, that you KNOW! Yet they DONOT block VULGAR activity!
The really frustrating thing for me personally, is when someone close to me becomes offended when I do not “LIKE” a picture of theirs, Comment on their status or Answer their inbox message fast enough… (BUT, THEY SEE THAT I AM ON CHAT) Sorry folks, I have a total of 5000 friends and, YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY FRIEND!!!!
I know what you’re thinking: “She has three accounts, say what?”
Account #1 is strictly CLOSE, Trustworthy friends and family
Account # 2 is strictly Business my Music, social contacts, university and work acquaintances.
Account # 3 is strictly Anonymous…. Explanation, If I want to join groups, local pages and or check up on my kids….this is how you do it!
I am not telling everyone to do this, but for me personally this is a healthier way for me to keep my life personal, due to all the changes occurring on facebook regularly, safety is a priority for me. I tell a lot of my friends to be careful when on Facebook, your location is automatically shown to everyone if you do not shut it off… on every message you send out, on every photo you upload and on every place ‘Friends” tag you in.
The real reason I am writing on this subject, is that Facebook WAS a really nice idea in the beginning, now it is filled with nosey, gossiping people, stalkers, porn, annoying advertisements, viruses, hackers, bullying and more. To think my children are on Facebook (Without their real info. of course) I do everything in my power to protect my children and family, but sadly things slip by.
Lastly, (Because I could go on and on) people un-friend me all the time and guess what…
I DON’T CARE!!! If you let things like that affect you then you are going to have a lot of trouble in your life my FRIEND!
The secret: DON’T TAKE FACEBOOK TOO SERIOUSLY!!!
Whatever happened to the thought of helping someone without the intension of receiving something in return?
Why is it that the majority of people that help do it out of pity or under terms and conditions?
Is there in existence anyone out there that genuinely cares for the well being of their fellow man?
Two photographs stained my memory a while back, one of them a white child and a black child hugging, both no older than three and it read below:
“These children were NOT born racist, they were taught by society and religion.”
The second photograph was a picture of a bald, tall muscular man wearing a red muscle shirt, full sleeve tattoos, blue ripped jeans and chains hanging from his belt. Next to this picture was another photograph of the same man at work in his white coat and stethoscope…..to my surprise, he was a doctor!
Now those photographs painted a powerful picture of a horrible fact on how our world operates and views each other! If we were never taught to believe in other people’s HATES we would never be such a non helping society!
This got me thinking not only is there a problem with acceptance, but there is a major problem with the way people decide to help others, by factoring in status, economic class, last names, sexuality and much more.
SO I HAVE A FEW THOUGHTS YOU CAN PONDER:
WHAT IF EVERYONE IN NEED CAME TO AN EXTREMELY RICH BLIND MAN, AND ASKED FOR HELP? YOU THINK EVERYONE WOULD BE HELPED, UNTIL HIS MONEY RAN OUT?
HOW MANY PEOPLE DID A THIEF GO TO FOR HELP, BEFORE THEY STOLE?
WHAT WAS HAPPENNING IN THE LIFE OF YOUR CO-WORKER BEFORE, THEY LOST THERE JOB, ENDED UP LOSING THEIR HOME, AND STARTED SELLING DRUGS?
We are so quick to judge, and slow help a person out, that might be more like us than we want to admit!
When I personally was in need of help, the people that came to my aid were not even close to what I expected. Being brought up in a Christian church I had my judgmental ways of thinking and boy oh boy was I mislead!
It turned out that my “Fellow Christians” were the last to help, and the very people I was taught to avoid and otherwise not associate with, do to conflicts of belief, ended up HELPING ME???
Well this left me with my jaw on the floor, feeling quite ridiculous for thinking all I was told to believe, was not even close to reality!
Out of all the generous, unselfish, beautiful, humble, people that helped me 90% of them were Catholic and the other 10% were complete strangers with little or no money, but the BIGGEST of HEARTS!
It seems that those who are less fortunate are moved to help more than those who have more than enough too help, WHY?
Those who have nothing, value what they have and how hard they worked to obtain it, therefore appreciating it more than someone who was handed money since their first words were spoken.
I am in no way saying that those who are upper class didn’t work hard to get there, but I notice that these people are more likely to turn you down in fear that by helping you they will end up broke!
Sadly my friends gave me excuses, my family basically said: “If you stayed in the church this would’ve never happened!”…..OKAY?
My own church that I grew up in wasn’t inclined to help either!
My situation is basically another blog entirely, but my point remains that, help is becoming extinct more than the animals..
So…. how did society become so self-centered and unemotional to the needs of other’s?
I hate to say it, but man’s teachings, separation of culture, religion, economical class, racist cults, greed, along with a long list of other reasons, is why people just don’t care to share!
Society is made up of many different clusters of economic class:
Here are a few……
~Lower Class (people who are looked down upon for having very little and barely being able to eat or sustain humble living conditions)…….
My Lower Class Definition: HUMBLE, Kindhearted people with a story, who are willing yet unable to help others or themselves when in need, but miraculously find a way through working their fingers to the bone.
~Middle Class (people who work extremely hard to be able to pay their loans, while they live in a somewhat comfortable apartment or small home with high mortgage)
My Middle Class Definition: Hardworking Overtaxed people who literally bust their butts off to have what they have and know the importance of saving and being responsible, wanting to help and usually end up helping, while being afraid of falling behind and not being able to catch up again!
~Upper Class (people who live ultra comfortable lives having more than one home. A business or two run by employees as they vacation 3 to 6 months out of the year and spend summer’s in private homes in exotic locations)
My Upper Class Definition: People who accuse others with lower economic class of being ignorant and uneducated without knowing their story, therefore not helping as a part of teaching them a lesson. Investing money and sharing a very small percentage to charities as not to be looked upon badly by society. They tip small, spend largely and could care less about humanity or our crumbling world.
I AM AWARE THAT NOT ‘ALL’ UPPER CLASS PEOPLE ARE THIS WAY, BUT I AM SPEAKING IN GENERAL, BECAUSE THE MAJORITY DO NOT HELP, UNLESS IT BENEFITS THEM!
I challenge you to invite in a stranger for a bowl of soup, drive up to a homeless person without judging and hand them more than just change, give that lady who is walking home in the rain a ride, open your Eyes, NOTICE, Heart, LOVE, and Mind, OPEN. Help thos that are less fortunate, no matter who they are, where they came from, what belief’s they have, or what color their skin is.
Let’s make someone’s life a little brighter this holiday season, and every other day of the years forever and always. Peace and Love, FancyJ London